Everything on earth has its own time and its own seasonEcclesiastes 3:1
Maturity - there is no shortcut to grow. It takes years and years for us to grow from an infant to child to teenager to adult..
When we try to ripen fruit faster, it loses its flavor. A small plant need plenty of years of proper care only can grow as a tree..
Without patience and love in doing, how could the unripe person to grow. It is not the matter of how fast you grow, it is the matter of how strong you grow. We never in hurry because every good thing take time to ripe.
Why it takes longer time for us to grow?
We are slow learners. Once a problem occurred, we claimed that we have learnt the lesson. But, we tend to revert back to our own pattern of solving problem. Perhaps..we only escape..Thus, we repeat over and over again, till the time we really come into realization, only we know the pain.
We have a lot of unlearn. Our habits or problems didnt develop overnight, it is hardly to go over just a blink of eyes. Sometimes, when we shared our deep rooted problem with our friends, we expect our friends to tell us what to do..but..it won't be solved in a second..it might take years and years to overcome or solve it..Taking off the old self , and putting on the new self.. it takes time to remove or change our own pattern, lifestyle, personality and so on..
We are afraid to face the truth of ourselves. Everyone has their own weaknesses, misbehavior record, bad personality and etc..but most of the time, we hide within ourselves..we are living in denial, we refused to face it..We afraid other people will discover the bad in us..and change the impression toward us..
Growth is painful and scary sometimes. There is no growth without change, no change without fear or loss, and no loss without pain. In order to grow, we somehow have to let go the old, and experience the new. But we are afraid to loss the old even the old might be destructive because we are used to old for such a long time. Once we keep afraid of change, the process of maturity will be slowed down..
Habits need time to develop. Our character developed through the habits that we have. We can't pretend to be honest to our friends if we are not doing it. These is no instant pathway to develop our habit. We need to practice to make it as habit..and somehow the habit become our character...
Growth..is a need instead of luxury. Maturity could help us to deal with problem more efficiently and effectively. We can't have childlike behavior forever, because our physical development would'nt put a pause to let us grow mentally and emotionally.
A sharing from what i have read. Hope it helps me, you and them.
How does one distinguish between being mature and immature. I believe every human has a perspective in which the define this quality.
ReplyDeleteAt times, being childish or having a child like quality provides an aspect of perspective which enable us to view things clearly. Many may disagree and work on pushing our qualities away. But those qualities are the very one's which enable us to provide a non-bias or non-discriminatory outlook in live.
People are often trying to grow fast and establish a set of norms for others and themselves based on the growth. Why do this?
Just my two cents on your article. An excellent topic for discussion based chats.
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Thanks for your comment. It indeed make me look at the "growth" in another perspective.
ReplyDeleteI do believe that a childlike quality is needed sometimes. For instance, when we educate the children, we have to know the best way to communicate with them. Perhaps, we have to really make ourselves a a joker.
I don't really prefer to set a norms for others..bcoz everyone define maturity differently..we want to grow fast..but not all the ppl in the same pace.most importantly..how strong we can grow..be sure with ourselves is the basic concept of become mature..
Thank you :D