Kinship

Expression of love - is it hard?

In a kinship, most of the Asian family don't express their love to one another. Parents will provide material form of love to their kids, and expect kids to receive and appreciate their effort. Some children do understand the hardship of parents to provide for them, and they will try to return their love in monetary form. However, some children don't want such kind of love, they wanted emotionally love. They felt neglected when the parents show more care and pay more attention to the other siblings. They felt unbalanced because they can't make a choice whereas the other siblings can do so. There is also the issue of fairness among siblings.

Do parents' love can be equally distributed to all the siblings? I think is quite hard, because LOVE can't be counted. Thus, i believe that parents love their children no matter how. No point comparing the love from parents with other siblings. We have to make ourselves accept that parents love us, no matter more or less..It is still very precious that our parents love us..

There is always lack of communication in this kind of kinship. Parents feel hurt when their children don't appreciate their love. They cried or complaint behind the scene, the children did not realize how hurt the parents are. On the other hand, children feel sad when they feel parents love the other siblings more. They did not mention it to the parents, and always keep the grudge inside their heart.

Sometimes, siblings are hard to communicate with each other too. The age gap might be a barrier of communication. When you wanted to comment on an issue, your elder siblings might not listen because you are the youngest. Sometimes, actually you are care about your siblings, but you don't know how to express your love to your siblings, and make your siblings think that you don't care about them at all.

Yes, it is indeed hard to express love to your family because you are not practicing it since birth. In a family which traditionally practice hierarchy of respecting someone who is elder than you, is hard to convey your disagreement or opinion toward people who is elder than you.

So, how to learn to be expressive to our family members? Accepting the fact that we love each other in a family. Try to talk it out.