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最近有了一个领悟

人与人，以身俱来就是会互相伤害
只有做到宽容和不把焦点放在人上，
伤害才会减低

有人，特别是亲人或好友
要求你做的，不一定是你做得到或想做的
你的接受，他人是欣慰的
你的拒绝，却很可能带来伤害

你想尽办法去解释
他人接受了，你就释怀了
他人拒绝了，你就情绪波动了

别人也有他的想法
他也想尽办法去说服解释
接受了，他必定欢喜
拒绝了 ，他可能还是不了解

当然，前提是你在乎别人多过于在乎自己
别人也在乎你多过于在乎自己

这就是人无止境的要求自己
也要求别人

不过，到最后
最好的不是等别人改变迎合我
而是我改变不去在意，学会宽容

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