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Decribe me

Decription about me - you have to use an item to describe me, it is what Best Buddies members' wishes for my birthday. It is precious, because i got a chance to know how they look at me, and how they percieve me.

Someone said that I m mysterious, hard to understand, and fear to talk to me. My look seems serious most of the time, and it scared people off. In fact, my physical look does not describe who am I.

I like the decription that Best Buddies did for me. It is not only a way to let me realise myself, in fact it is an encouragement and compliment for me to carry on the mission of Best Buddies together with this cool team. I did not want to disclose what they mentioned here, but those message serves as a reminder for myself to do my own self reflection.

It is not important to understand someone fully, because the person herself can't even understand herself fully. The person might change her way of talking, her adaptive behavior or her emotion toward things or people due to different circumstances. You might understand her at that moment, in future you might able to understand her anymore.

Then, you only make yourself emotional and upset because you are unable to understand her.

For me myself, I won't focus too much on understanding the person, instead i will try my best to make friend with that person first. Talk to the person more, and ask the question that i feel like asking. No communication, no improvement of relationship.

I prefer my friends come straight to me, and let me know how they feel or think..It is how a good friendship should be.

Use an item to describe your friend :D

If you want to desribe, feel free to do so .



Comments

  1. well...
    u look stern before i know u...
    u look crazy and fun after i know u...
    i guess this is the aftermath of UCSIx7! =_="

    hope u can be happy go lucky always~ and hope i can bring u fun and "happiness" when all of us still around in uni... hehe! ^^

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