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Think and Think

You are not responsible for what people think about you.
But you are responsible for what you give them to think about you. (Stanley Ferrard)

People might think of you as a good person to be with. Thus, the person might try his ultimate effort to be close with you, and to know you more. It is how you give response to the person. You may be offered yourselves and being very helpful to the person, thus has created a good impression to that person. When the person is showing his interest, you might feel scared of it because this is not your intention to be. But, your words and actions already make the person misunderstood you.

People might think of you as a bad person to be with. You might be behave very wierd and strange in front of the public. You are not revealing your true self, and people are not comfortable to open up to you too. In fact, you might be very kind hearted. But your attitude in front of others have given a mindset for people to look at you.

I always wonder how people look at me. I always try to assume how people look at me. It is bad. Because the more i think, i still did not know the answer unless i go to ask them. Even i ask them, the person might not tell me the truth. Even i think, i still cant get the solution, then what for i think?

I realize that i should look at my own feeling, thought and action when i m dealing with different people. I am the culprit who should bear the responsibility. My words and behaviors are the one cause the perception in others. No more blaming on others.

Comments

  1. You should ask me out for a cup of tea. Maybe you might get what you are hoping for. :)

    Take care dear.

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  2. :) what i wanted to tell you, i've ady told through msn.

    I don't wanna say anymore. Or else, not precious anymore. haha! ;)

    be a happy huiru! ^.^v

    i'll be there if you ever need me. Don't need me also never mind, i can kepoh with u~ haha! ^^

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