Skip to main content

Collectivism

Human has the fundamental need to feel connected to social world. In another word, no man is an island. Family members, friends, colleagues and others are creatures that live in this social world. Thus, our world is never to be alone.

Everyone is unique, we are wonderful art piece by God. Uniqueness makes everyone has their own charisma that attracts the others. Attraction could be either positive or negative. Positive attraction could help both parties to feel much more connected to one another. However, negative attraction might hinder both parties to become one step closer.

How about family members? Do we feel comfortable or connected to every single family members that we have? Rarely it happened. It doesn't mean that we do not have the ability to improve the relationship. In the kinship, It is even harder to deal with once conflict or argument occurs. We can't simply abandon our family members, and also we are reluctant to speak it frankly to one another. Thus, the conflict is always hide within our heart. Old proverb said, "paper is not able to cover the fire". Yes indeed. It will be brought out one day, perhaps it is under force.

Chinese culture - respect elderly without any questioning or doubt about their actions or thoughts. We have been taught to be fit into the culture. But, we are getting mature when we grow up. We gain experience and knowledge day by day. We started to have different value, and we adopt our own style of culture. It might be hard to let others accept WHO YOU ARE instantly, but one day they will accept it.

We are independent, we are as a whole even though we need to feel connected to others. We have our own perception, emotion and also behaviors. We can't please everyone to accept who we are, but we also cannot afford to deviate from the norms. In my opinion, extraordinary could be acceptable unless it is something beneficial or healthy. Anything that goes toward bad or delinquent toward self or others, It is hardly to be accepted in this society.

I agreed with what my friend said. Action speaks louder than words, however words that you speak could be detrimental to others. Words could be a weapon that break someone's heart. Think wisely before we speaks. Criticism is hard to be digested, thus it needs to be done constructively. Receiving criticism from others is ain't bad, it actually means that It is an advice from you to become a better one.

Direct or directly criticism has to be in nice and polite manner. No excuse is entertained once you words already hurt the other people. It is not for you to self-blaming, but It is a reminder for us not to repeat the action.

Survival of the nicest - the new theory introduced by Professor Sam Bowles, defines as kindness is the cornerstone for the human race prospered as a species. Be kind to ourselves, and be kind to others. We don't want to be hurt, thus we also don't hurt others.


Hui Ru

Labels

Labels:

Comments

Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

Spell or Hallucination

If you know a person, She claimed that "the maid put the spell on my family, at night a small boy will bite my foot, when I kick him away and I heard the sound of crying. Apart from that, she is mumbling at night. My daughter started to speak rudely to me, and did not call me as mother anymore. She moved back to her own house. My husband, he started to scold me in Malay, and also instructed the maid to beat grandsons. Everyone is sided the maid" No one is believing what she said. Her children claimed that she is just hallucination. She is just thinking too much because of her experience in stroke. After she got a stroke, things started to change. Her family did not treat her well. What is your advice? Is the maid put the spell on her family? Is she just thinking too much?
6 comments
Read more

Full stop is not a Stop

My study has come to the full stop. After the submission of my final year project, I thought I will be delighted, yet I wasn't. I was apathetic. No more motivation to complete it, I already forgotten my achievement goals, I have given up. During the phase of life, I felt Life is just ain't about perfection. Imperfection in life is the essence of our growth. In order to grow, old proverb saying "no pain, no gain", it indeed applies to everyone of us. Being through thick and thin, sweat and tears, I started to realise that adaptation to sudden change is incredibly important. For instance, we have a goal to get a First Class Honour in our degree program, but our result speaks no to us. Is it show that we are stupid? Nope, it only tells us that it is a piece of paper which might granted us to obtain better job, yet which class you get is not the guarantee to get a better job. The end of college life, is the start of _______ life. People will fill in the blank themselves....
4 comments
Read more

Look Out Point, Ampang

To see Kuala Lumpur nightview, familiar people will tell you to go Look Out Point, Ampang. Cold breeze on your face, indeed refreshing your mind of a day, in provided that the surrounding is quiet. Look out the view from the tower, numerous of yellow lights like stars shining on you. The most attractive point will be KLCC. A romantic place to be, for couples. Please bring a camera, if not the view can't really be seen (like my photo above). It is best to calm yourself down, by looking at the night view. The surrounding is dim, and you could just be yourselves, without bothering anyone around you. The first time, I came with a down feeling, thus I felt better to do the same. There is few restaurants there. We tried Bread and Olives, as recommanded by my friends. The drink was so-so. The hot chocolate like milo, and the nescafe also like milo. Hot drink is not hot enough. Haha. But, most important thing is to get yourself a good seating to enjoy the night view. We ordered this. Thin ...
2 comments
Read more