Collectivism

Human has the fundamental need to feel connected to social world. In another word, no man is an island. Family members, friends, colleagues and others are creatures that live in this social world. Thus, our world is never to be alone.

Everyone is unique, we are wonderful art piece by God. Uniqueness makes everyone has their own charisma that attracts the others. Attraction could be either positive or negative. Positive attraction could help both parties to feel much more connected to one another. However, negative attraction might hinder both parties to become one step closer.

How about family members? Do we feel comfortable or connected to every single family members that we have? Rarely it happened. It doesn't mean that we do not have the ability to improve the relationship. In the kinship, It is even harder to deal with once conflict or argument occurs. We can't simply abandon our family members, and also we are reluctant to speak it frankly to one another. Thus, the conflict is always hide within our heart. Old proverb said, "paper is not able to cover the fire". Yes indeed. It will be brought out one day, perhaps it is under force.

Chinese culture - respect elderly without any questioning or doubt about their actions or thoughts. We have been taught to be fit into the culture. But, we are getting mature when we grow up. We gain experience and knowledge day by day. We started to have different value, and we adopt our own style of culture. It might be hard to let others accept WHO YOU ARE instantly, but one day they will accept it.

We are independent, we are as a whole even though we need to feel connected to others. We have our own perception, emotion and also behaviors. We can't please everyone to accept who we are, but we also cannot afford to deviate from the norms. In my opinion, extraordinary could be acceptable unless it is something beneficial or healthy. Anything that goes toward bad or delinquent toward self or others, It is hardly to be accepted in this society.

I agreed with what my friend said. Action speaks louder than words, however words that you speak could be detrimental to others. Words could be a weapon that break someone's heart. Think wisely before we speaks. Criticism is hard to be digested, thus it needs to be done constructively. Receiving criticism from others is ain't bad, it actually means that It is an advice from you to become a better one.

Direct or directly criticism has to be in nice and polite manner. No excuse is entertained once you words already hurt the other people. It is not for you to self-blaming, but It is a reminder for us not to repeat the action.

Survival of the nicest - the new theory introduced by Professor Sam Bowles, defines as kindness is the cornerstone for the human race prospered as a species. Be kind to ourselves, and be kind to others. We don't want to be hurt, thus we also don't hurt others.