Interpersonal Conflict

Never regret of what you have said, because there is no turning back. When you decided to pour out everything, and you have done it. There is no point to struggle about it. Up to the point, you only can wait for the other person to response. Good or bad you have to accept it.

The process of waiting is suffering when you keep wondering about how the other person thinks about it. When you try to stop thinking about it, but the thought just can't take out from your mind. At this point, keeping yourself busy is the way to distract your thought and occupy yourself with another thing.

Why when you know that the thing that you had said might cause unpleasant to the other person, you still say it out? I guess is because your relationship with that person is already up to the point that hard to hide from each other. You used to be so frank with that person, and that person is already expert in detecting your emotion. So, you have to say it.

What will happen next is an infinity answer. You never know. Just hope that the other party is alright. You are not really worry about the consequences, thus worry about the emotion about that person.

Rectify your own emotion, and move on. Don't make yourself to be so unhappy when there is no answer at this moment. Just left the other person be, and leave it. Keep yourself in silent and not bothering that person might be the best solution now.

When there is interpersonal conflict, there is always MUTUAL. No matter which side is at fault, both still have to listen to each other, probe questions to each other, handle the conflict together and solve the problem.

Hui Ru

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