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小故事分享:成为一个自己愉快,也能够给别人愉快的人 ^.^

一位十六歲的少年去拜訪一位年長的智者。4 J Z+ w J: J' N0 _

6 y- D9 {& X3 }0 r6 o麻坡|麻坡美食|麻坡论坛|麻坡旅游|时尚中文论坛社区|他問:「我如何才能變成一個自己愉快、也能夠給別人愉快的人呢?」
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" O1 J/ z& o3 b: K" U2 }muartalks.com智者笑著望著他說:「孩子,在你這個年齡有這樣的願望,已經是很難得了。很多比你年長很多的人,從他們問的問題本身就可以看出,不管給他們多少解釋,都不可能讓他們明白真正重要的道理,就只好讓他們那樣好了。」# \* T+ U( r4 Y( U B7 \# Z

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智者接著說:「我送給你四句話。」MUARTALKS 麻坡论坛5 e( M- q' E4 z& B( \+ l

) X- U( {- } j1 L第一句話是:「把自己當成別人。」你能說說這句話的含義嗎?
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智者微微點頭,接著說,第二句話:「把別人當成自己。」
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少年沈思一會兒,說:「這樣就可以真正同情別人的不幸,理解別人的需求,並且在別人需要的時候,給予恰當的幫助?」
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智者兩眼發光,繼續說道:「第三句話:把別人當成別人。」
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少年說:「這句話的意思是不是說,要充分地尊重每個人的獨立性,在任何情形下,都不可侵犯他人的核心領地?」
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智者哈哈大笑:「很好,很好。孺子可教也!」
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第四句話是:「把自己當成自己,這句話理解起來太難了,留著你以後慢慢品味吧。」1 P& ~% n# w* a/ i
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少年說:「這句話的含義,我是一時體會不出。但這四句話之間就有許多自相矛盾之處,我用什麼才能把它們統一起來呢?」麻坡,麻坡美食,麻坡论坛,麻坡旅游,时尚中文论坛社区,柔佛论坛,东甲论坛,昔加末论坛,新山论坛,插件6 X" L7 M2 Q6 b7 {4 q% {
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智者說:「很簡單,用一生的時間和經歷。」muartalks.com; w$ o) \3 h+ M7 B( ^ d

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不要認為,自己什麼都可以做的到,就好像你伸手,卻抓不住整個天空,從我們站的地方來看,雨是隨機地下;如果我們站在別的地方,也許就能看出其中的規則


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