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执子之手,与子偕老

今天,一通的电话,只听到爸爸一直的感叹,他收到了恶讯。。不知情的我,不闻不问,也没有多大的反应,心想晚间时才询问爸爸到底发生什么的事。。


婆婆,最爱我载她去找她的姐妹,也就是我的老姨。路途上,我用这我有限的福建方言与她沟通。有说有笑却不知觉的到达目的地。


拿着拐杖的婆婆,缓缓地下车。突然间,老姨家的邻居爆出一句话“小妹妹,你知不知道那个老人死了”,我不懂装懂,随便的回答,就跟着婆婆进入老姨家。


安顿好了,便自行的坐下。老姨行动不方便,已无法自己走动。婆婆便与老姨以潮州话畅谈起来。没别的用意,婆婆来的目的是想要安抚老姨。


看着老姨,眼眶红红的。。我开始感受到了心里有一丝的悸动。我不禁的感叹。他们谈着老姨丈的后事,老姨丈如何过生。。等等。。


老姨突然悲从中来,我好想哭的感觉。。


为什么?


白发人送黑发人,是难以接受的。。不过,白发人送白发人又何等的感受呢?


今天,我见识到了。。原来,与子偕老,在一对老夫老妻的身上是至上的。老姨回忆着他,叙述着他对她的爱护与关怀,让我鼻子顿时酸酸的。老姨不禁哭了2次,婆婆也只能告诉她“他能够安详的去世,很好命了”强忍的泪水,对她来讲是很困难的。


"家里少了一个人,很孤单” 这是她对她的老公的宣言。哎,感叹人生就是苦短。生老病死,是必经之路。不过,自己的至亲突然的离开,就像在心脏开了一个口。尤其是,平时老伴的踪影已无处可寻,只有回忆中的背影,隐隐约约的烙在心里。


老姨丈的离开,看到了老姨真挚的爱。原来,爱就是这样的简单。爱就是对方的陪伴。


老姨丈,虽然我对你没有很大的印象。不过,我深信你的80多年的生涯,应该是多姿多彩的, 安息吧 ;而老姨,你要好好的活下去。。


Hui Ru

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