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Sexual Harassment

According to Malaysian Labor Law, sexual harassment is defined as any unwelcome verbal, non-verbal, visual, psychological, or physical conduct of a sexual nature that might, on reasonable grounds, be perceived by the victim as placing a condition of a sexual nature on his or her employment because of his or her sex.

Sexual harassment is normally happened nowadays. Previously, I had read a new regarding a Singaporean guy has spontaneous ejaculation, a type of sexual disorder. He able to perform self-masturbation by rubbing the leg of a girl sitting in front of him, whereas he was standing in the bus. The girl notified the issue when she felt her leg was getting wet.

Sexual harassment might not bring into attention, when it occurs at the crowded place such as train, bus, shopping complex and others. Frotteurism, is a type of sexual disorder whereas the person obtains sexual pleasure, urge or fantasy by rubbing or touching against a non-consenting individual. Hence, they intentionally attracted to crowded place, and they could sexually harassed people without people come to realization. For instance, you cannot even being defensive when you experienced unpleasant touch by other people because everyone force to come near to each other when the train is over crowded.

At the workplace, sexual harassment nonetheless under the protection of legal law right. If you are sexually harassed by colleagues or employers, you have ultimate right to charge against them. However, your own dress code could be the core of sexual harassment. You dress up with sexy clothing, with the marvelous body figure, most of the people can't help staring or looking at you. It might probably attracts people to lose self-control over their own physiological need.

There is a phenomenon in the clubs or disco. By observing their customers, 10 out of 10 will dress up to show their perfect body, and also apply thick makeup on their face. Interestingly, is it a need to dress up in such way by attending clubs or disco? What is the reason that you are visiting clubs or disco? A thought to be pondered.

In the class, I vividly remembered my lecturer shared a sexual harassment experience with us. She said "you will face a lot of sexual harassment issue in the counseling field". I think people are calling to counseling centre, because their call won't be rejected at first.

During my internship in counseling centre, yesterday I finally experienced what is sexual harassment, and I finally understand the real meaning of sexual harassment. Fortunately, I was calm but afterward I felt disgusted by his conversation.

Initially, he called in to find a counselor. Little did I know, I transferred line to counseling department and the call bounded back. Innocently, I kindly said sorry and wanted to transfer line again.

Out of sudden, he requested me to stand up. After few times of saying why, he said "please help me, I need to masturbate". I only can say "Wait a moment, I need to transfer line". He did not allow me to, and talked in the manner of sexual invitation tone. "I need to imagine the pant is wet" "I am going to ejaculate" "I am getting high" and others.

At last, I forcefully transfer line. After such conversation, my mind is recover back to normal. My intention is to help him, but at last I was sexually harassed. But, I never regret to receive such call. I got a precious experience. In times, I will know how to deal with it better.

In fact, I am sympathize them.

Even though I am unable to assist in counseling, sometimes I attended to certain calls which also a way to learn how to communicate to people who are in trouble.

A lot more discovery ...

Hui Ru

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