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有人说，我会倾听
心里是怎么的想，但行出来却由不得自己
倾听不是那么容易做到
如果，那人告诉你的是使你非常厌恶的
倾听可能就变成更多的厌恶
也开始在思想里有一定的判断
这，就是最危险的时刻
因为对方有可能感受到你的厌恶，
就算再掩饰，感觉不被接受还是容易被感受的
危险的是感情不能建立，也不会进步，也不会有信任
那也代表了什么？
倾听需要的是包容，
不止需要爱，更需要宽恕的心
 
 

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