一句的“可以帮我一件事吗？”
从要求者的口中，很容易因为他只认为是举手之劳，简单没什么问题的
被要求者，个人就比较的随便，可以的话就尽量的帮到底。。
一而再在而三的，重复的听到同一句话。。
开始不胜其烦。。。
这个叫得寸进尺，还是渐渐的有利用对方的成分？
帮助一个人，不是胡乱或盲目的去帮
要看对方需不需要，或对与错
例如：你借钱给一个挥霍的人，或借钱给一个三餐不温饱的人。。
哪一个应该帮呢？
助人为快乐之本，从小就被灌输的道德观念
长大了，就懂得转变。。
需要保护，也需要付出。。
Recently learnt about emotion triangle, it said human tends to suppress core emotion, and manifested as either a defense or inhibitory emotion. The emotion that we tends to inhibit are shame, guilt ... There are fear and inferiority that governs my heart - I have to learn to address and admit my feelings better, and make a decision to communicate or set a boundary. It is hard to actually do so, and I know after I have done it - I can sense my guilt and shame. It is like a vicious cycle. I have to make a promise to myself - be mindful, be steady and let my head clears. Don't react much...But at the same times I am glad that I did say something. I did express myself. I did feeling less intense. I treated it as a progress. Anyway I felt sorry of the people that I hurt - when I am still a human with sin...
助人为快乐之本。。。。
ReplyDelete就好像，救人一命胜造七级浮屠。。。
不是不帮，只是超出限度了！
长大了，人就学会变通了。。
如何得到平衡点。。。只有自己知!
每个人是不一样的.
也许，已经超出我的限度了
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