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是否帮

一句的“可以帮我一件事吗?”

从要求者的口中,很容易因为他只认为是举手之劳,简单没什么问题的

被要求者,个人就比较的随便,可以的话就尽量的帮到底。。

一而再在而三的,重复的听到同一句话。。

开始不胜其烦。。。

这个叫得寸进尺,还是渐渐的有利用对方的成分?

帮助一个人,不是胡乱或盲目的去帮

要看对方需不需要,或对与错

例如:你借钱给一个挥霍的人,或借钱给一个三餐不温饱的人。。

哪一个应该帮呢?

助人为快乐之本,从小就被灌输的道德观念

长大了,就懂得转变。。

需要保护,也需要付出。。


Hui Ru

Comments

  1. 助人为快乐之本。。。。
    就好像,救人一命胜造七级浮屠。。。
    不是不帮,只是超出限度了!

    长大了,人就学会变通了。。
    如何得到平衡点。。。只有自己知!
    每个人是不一样的.

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  2. 也许,已经超出我的限度了

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