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Having an Extraordinary Friend

First and foremost, I appreciated Shan Na for providing me a chance to feature my writing in UCSI University VOIZ (a newsletter talks about students). My writing isn't fantastic, but my writing is a way for me to express my gratitude toward my extraordinary friend, Charmaine.

The theme of April 2010 issue is friendship. I grabbed this opportunity to talk about my special friend, so called buddy

I got to know her since I involved in Best Buddies program. The friendship blossoms, and we maintain our friendship until now.

Below is my writing regarding how I learn from her:

Being the friend of an extraordinary friend does not mean that I am her superior. In fact, we are equals who are constantly learning from each other. Some people might assume that a friendship with a special friend might end with me being the caregiver. In actual fact, a buddy's role is just to be a friend, as simple as ABC. However, we need to be sensible in dealing with special friends.

Here are a few tips in maintaining good friendship with extraordinary friends.

* Keep your promise
Do not make empty promises when you are unsure of your decisions. They take your words seriously. If you are unable to keep the promise, you might end up hurting their feelings.

* Consistency
A simple "How are you", "Have you eaten" or "Take care" moves them. They need care and concern from a friend. Thus, your constant contact will make them feel they are important in your eyes.

* Patience
Sometimes, they might not able to comprehend your messages. Be patient, and repeat the messages to them. Ensure you convey the messages correctly. If you feel frustrated having to repeat your sentences, try not to lose your temper. Respond nicely to them, for after all, they are special people.

* Do not treat them as kids
Do not treat them as kids. If they behave badly, you must correct them because it is the way to make them learn and grow. A true friend reveals a friend's flaws or mistakes to help him/her improve

My extraordinary friend is the most marvelous I ever received. Once she touched my heart deeply, when she hugged me and said "Thank you" to me. I really appreciate her friendship as her cheerful and positive personality deeply inspires me to be more optimistic in life.

In life, we meet many acquaintances, but seldom do we have extraordinary friends. Do not hesitate to befriend them, because just like us - they need friends. Friends should be supportive of each another. Thus, you are helping them as they are helping you too. Be genuine and positive in your relationship with them, they could be your precious friends for life.

(This essay is edited UCSI editorial team)

Hui Ru

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  1. 梦熊 - 张峰与 (Wallace Teo)May 10, 2010 at 11:09 PM

    keep your sincerity for being friend with extraordinary friend that around you now .. gambate

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