Recently, my schoolmate had left us to heaven. None of us expecting or realizing how suffering she is in earth, we did not know she chose to suicide because she used to be a sunshine in our eyes. In my memory, I never see her depressed or sad, I only see her positive side. Shock is my initial reaction once I received this heartbreaking news.
I pray for her immediately once I hang out the call. My heart was able to be regain peace and calm after the prayer. I smiled, because I believe she is happily staying with Father in heaven, and has gained eternal life.
Browsing through messages left on her wall in facebook, my heart is souring. My best friend, experiencing grievousness deeply. She posted a lot of messages for her, hoping she is able to read them. Apart from that, she is blaming herself greatly.
I am observing, and I don't interrupt her. Grief is a process of healing. She needs to be healed, and I won't stop her to feeling grief. At the same time, I worried she still unable to accept the fact at the end, and she choose to self blaming for life.
At the moment, her feeling is very intense, and the pain is squeezing her heart badly. She encounters much sorrow that none of us able to feel it. Someone used to be your listener and joker, a familiar voice and face became emptiness. It is pretty difficult to overcome.
There are 5 stages of grief - denial, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance. The toughest is the process of depression. We might lost the purpose of living, blaming self and others, losing appetite, misjudging fairness of God and others.
The person is leaving, and the living has to survive after the loss. Life is given, and we have to appreciate and move on in lives.
"There is time for everything, and a season for every activity under heaven, a time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance " Ecclesiastes 3:1-4
Be strong, my friend.
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