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如果我能学以致用...

我,一直有一个梦想,就是要用自己的生命去影响别人。选择了心理学,因为我对辅导或临床充满了热忱与期盼。我希望我有能力去帮助每一个人。实现梦想的第一步,就是需要文凭。我完成了心理学学士,也即将完成硕士心理学。这绝对是我迈进一步的关键。但,还是不够。我的文凭不足够让我实现梦想。我,还需要博士文凭。

开始我渐渐地后悔,也渐渐地接受。后悔,因为心理学不容易读,也需要不断的进取。接受,因为我爱心理学,既然做了选择,我就应该走下去。我的心情的起伏,会时高时低。高昂的时候,因为我能够学以致用。低潮的时候,因为知道自己能力有限。

心理学就好像你拥有了一片辽阔的草原,但你需要独自寻找你要的乐趣

我的盲点,我自己很清楚。我对母亲课题很敏感,也更为之动容。我们的人格特质,除了基因的因素,也包含了家人的连结和环境的影响。我与母亲的连结特别深,也特别在意她的一切。只要是关于母亲,我会很容易感动或低落。

也许因为我读心理学的因素,也让我机会聆听很多别人的心事。心理学的最大好处,我想是增加我们的感官能力。我们能够较容易发现别人内心的喜怒哀乐。虽然可以强力感应,不过往往我们不能打草惊蛇,也不能够冒然然地告诉对方我们的感觉。

当一个人情愿让自己的心被伤害,
也许我们该做的第一件事,就是陪伴,保证那颗心还有痊愈的机会

最近,有一位刚认识不久的朋友分享了她的故事。她想要纹身。纹身对她有重大的意义,因为她想要留着已经去世的妈妈的记忆,让自己有安全感。当她叙述妈妈的故事,她很坚强,你也许会一度认为她已经看淡一切。其实,她的内心深处,妈妈的离世是她会永远自责的遗憾。

她虽然很淡定地说,也只是通过msn的谈话,却足够让我心酸与心疼。我清楚知道,她需要把这根刺拔出来,不过目前她选择这个痛。她也知道她很压抑,但她害怕她释放了会永远再也抓不到妈妈的记忆。

这时,我充满了无力感。第一,我不可以破化她想要的。第二,我无法去帮她。虽然,我知道她说做的一切,让她永远被这个情绪困住,也会影响她未来的感情生活,但我真的无能为力。朋友,就只能陪伴但不能辅导,因为我们无法分辨友谊与顾客的界限。更让我无力的,我辞穷。我感觉自己的话语变成没有影响力。

希望有那么的一天,她能够走出自己设的框框。再多外围的努力,如果自己不想,其实也是徒然。或许,会有那么一天,她会因为某些事件,让她觉醒。

而我呢,也要更加努力,达成自己的梦想。让我有一天,真的可以学以致用。


我们都需要一个强大的支柱来支持我们
有时,甚至不需要能言善道;也许,只需要一个心灵的寄托

省思语

如果有那么一天,你能够去感染别人,不要犹豫,一定要去做,因为机会难得。

如果有那么一天,你觉得自己无能为力,不要气馁,一定要继续努力,因为你的努力能够换到肯定。


最后,分享一个影片。可能很多人都看过了,不过这首歌深深感动我。不明白的语言,却能听出深深对母亲的思念。

一个能够感染别人的声音,就因为他经历了痛苦...其实很心酸和心疼,也希望每一个经历痛苦的朋友们,能够活得开心,精彩

Hui Ru

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