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如果我懂得沟通...

沟通，就是人与人之间的言语交流。两个人可以成为朋友、伴侣、夫妻，无可厚非沟通占了一大部分。沟通是维持感情的桥梁。如果你要了解和认识一个人，你需要知道她/他的内心世界。所以，彼此必须要多说话，多分享秘密，那感情就会慢慢成长。

没沟通，就没感情吗？不是，只是感情不深。我们需要在职场上与上司和同事沟通、我们也会与同学为了功课而沟通。不过，这种沟通比较利益分化。我们之间的沟通换来了成果。只要利益消失了，沟通也自动减少。

沟通是双向，互动的模式

有些人，沟通能力很好，也帮她/他赢得了很多的关系。我总是羡慕，为何我不能办到？我是一个不知道如何找话题谈的人，所以我的朋友需要很善言，才不会感觉闷。我也选择性的说话。我认为这个人安全，我才会多说话，属于慢热型的。

我一直不断的改变，也希望自己能够增加沟通的能力。一个人不能够只有一套的沟通技巧，是需要一个灵活的沟通方程式。不同的人，需要不同的说话方式。有些人你可以毫无保留的有话直说，也有些人你必须婉转的说，或有些人不让你说的机会。

你是否曾经用你的言语感动过一个人？

感情越深，你也会发现自己失去了沟通的能力。不懂得向父母亲将心比心，不懂得对伴侣甜言蜜语，不懂得对朋友嘘寒问暖。感情会因为沟通而改变。如果彼此都只是有心，但没言，这并不能让彼此更靠近。但，如果你言，你说的是什么呢？是赞美，还是批评呢？

你是否忘了，一个臭的苹果，足以影响其它的好苹果？批评不可以恶言相向，批评需要考虑对方的感受。而，赞美需要诚心诚意，不是哄骗，也不是敷衍。当你多看别人的优点，多给与他/她赞美，沟通不止改善，感情也增加。那不是很好吗？

共勉之~

如果，我们可以给身边的人一点的赞美，你灿烂了那个人的心情，你心中也会充满喜乐

如果，我们只一味不断的批评一个人，你不止影响了那个人，你也得不到任何益处

微博：【心理沟通技巧】两个人的沟通70％是情绪，30％是内容，如果沟通情绪不对，那内容就会给扭曲了，所以沟通内容之前，情绪层面一定要梳理好，不然误会只会越来越深

Hui Ru

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