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圣经中所谓的爱

爱是恒久忍耐,又有恩慈,爱是不嫉妒,爱是不自夸,不张狂,不做害羞的事,不求自己的益处,不轻易发怒,不计算人的恶,不喜欢不义,只喜欢真理,凡是包容,凡是相信,凡是盼望,凡是忍耐

刚刚陷入爱河的情侣,都可以深深感受到爱的美好。荷尔蒙的作祟,让彼此都只看到彼此的美,彼此的优点。就好像喝醉酒一样,陶醉在这个酒的美梦中。当身边的人批判他/她的伴侣缺点,他/她绝对会反驳,或从此不再向你提起他/她的恋爱史。这一切是多么的完美,情浓浓,爱深深...

两个人在一起久了,也自然越了解彼此。与热恋相比,这个恋情已经转化成稳定期。当一切都定下来了,人就会往现实着想。其实彼此相爱是不变的事实,不过不像热恋一样的疯狂。彼此会更加对柴米油盐酱醋茶而操心。担心对方的健康,担心对方的安全,担心对方的睡眠。爱充满了温情,有家人的感觉。

感情久了,彼此开始对热恋恋恋不忘。开始质疑“为什么不如从前了?”,就算回温,你也只觉得不再像以前一样。人的讨价还价,爱比较的性格慢慢地充满了思绪。一大堆的为什么,都被摊在台面。很多经典的语录,你都会听到。比如,为何你不再像一样那样爱我?为什么你都不懂我?

这个阶段最难熬,也最艰辛。大不了一拍两散,真的那么容易吗?除非,你眼前已经找到更好的,或许你真的太灰心了,也许另一半太绝情了。散场,应该就是彼此看见彼此最污秽的时刻。以前的美好,都变成雨后的泥巴。

圣经总是为人预备你将要面对的困境。这个时候,圣经中所谓的爱,彼此都应该好好的去省思。其实爱并不简单,圣经完美诠释了爱。以上的所有条件,可能我们都是不及格的。爱需要学习,你自己定义的爱,并不代表你的另一半也如此定义。那,你是否考虑依照神设定的爱去实践呢?

也许,顿时你会懂得爱了。。


Hui Ru

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